Lose the Battle - Win the War

Sometimes we have to be prepared to lose battles in order to win the war.
God's way is patience, persistence and not-giving-up. If the battles can't defeat us, the war may still eventually be won.
Finishing well in life is not really about succeeding at every point along the journey.
Finishing well is more about pacing ourselves and acknowledging there are many mistakes to be made along the way, whilst savouring the wins as they come, knowing that they provide us with sufficient feedback to suggest we are on the right path.
Losing a battle in order to eventually win a war is a wise concession; to allow a loss to occur as in yielding for a better overall outcome.
There are many times in life where people will need to see us bend toward them; toward compromise. Relationships are always based in give-and-take. If we cannot bend toward people, copping our losses with grace, there will be less give in return.
When we can look at life beyond the battles, knowing that the war is only against one thing - the agenda of evil - we appreciate how relatively unimportant single events are.
The overall context of life exists in that truth: nothing, of itself, is that important. Only the overall balance of things is a true guide.
Losing the battle to remain in contention for winning the overall war is wisdom. And many such wars are not really wars at all; they are just improbable situations we wish to turn into probable outcomes.
The wisdom in remaining in the race despite significant discouragements is realised in persistence. As we persevere against our better judgment, which has no sight for faith at all, we employ faith: the invisible hope of what we wish for but have no evidence for seeing.
When we are able to lose a battle and remain patient we demonstrate character.
Such character is home to humility and perspective; to realism and peace.
The overall objective of life is to learn to focus on the overall war, not on the battles. If we are focused on the overall war - and it's a spiritual one - we will do what we need to do to endure the battles. And that is all we need do - endure.
Yes, there is peace upon this realism; to accept humbly what we can and can't do in life; to accept our capabilities and limitations gracefully.
© 2012 S. J. Wickham.

Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner and holds Degrees in Science, Divinity, and Counselling. Steve writes at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com.au/ and http://tribework.blogspot.com.au/

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How To Forgive And Forget: The Truth About Forgiveness

Much has been said about forgiveness throughout the ages. Despite all the spiritual and self-help advice we receive, however, most people still find it very difficult to forgive.
While we often say the words "I forgive you" or "let's forget and move on," still deep within our hearts we are not really letting go of most of the anger and blame we feel against someone who may have seriously wronged us. This can result in ongoing personal suffering that, for some, continues to last throughout their lifetime.
The reason why most spiritual and self-help advice about forgiveness doesn't help is because it doesn't delve deeply enough into the actual causes of our anger and blame in the first place. When you correctly understand the true causes of anger in human beings, you begin to deeply appreciate that the most important causes of anger and resentment lie mainly within us, and not with the behavior of others or whatever may have happened in the past.
These internal causes are anger-producing thought patterns and action patterns that become triggered within in our bodies. Often, these internal thought patterns and action or behavior patterns produce "false internal realities" within us that we automatically assume to be true, but that have little correspondence to the truth about what really happened. But we end up getting angry and holding on to our anger anyway, because our bodies automatically assume that all of these "internal realities" are indeed true.
For example, automatic anger-producing thoughts such as "someone did something they shouldn't have done" or "I was hurt or harmed by what happened" or "the other person was unilaterally to blame for what occurred" are frequently incorrect. As a result of these mistaken "internal realities," we conclude that a crime has been committed and that someone should apologize, offer to make amends, and/or be punished. When none of these things occur, or sometimes even when they do, we may find it very difficult to forgive.
There is no way you can "let go" of your anger or truly forgive the past as long as "false internal realities" remain unchallenged within you. You cannot pretend "all is forgiven" when you are certain that: a) you were seriously harmed; b) the other person (or yourself) was unilaterally to blame; and c) this person should have done something different.
THE SECRET TO TRUE FORGIVENESS IS TO CHALLENGE YOUR INTERNAL ASSUMPTIONS THAT LEAD YOU TO BELIEVE AN UNFORGIVABLE CRIME WAS ACTUALLY COMMITTED IN THE FIRST PLACE.
The best way to do this is to recognize where your automatic assumptions, which are causing your anger and resentment, are false or misleading. Once you challenge and disprove these "false internal realities," your anger and resentment will quickly disappear, without you having to do anything to try to force this to happen.
Even when a true crime, such as a theft or murder was committed, it is still possible--although not easy--to forgive the offending party. This can sometimes be done by challenging your automatic assumption that the person should have "known better" or should have behaved in a different manner.
Copyright (c) 2013 M.C.Orman, M.D., FLP

Doc Orman, M.D. is a physician, author, stress coach, and founder of The Stress Mastery Academy. To learn more about his advice on how to forgive, as well as how to solve other lingering stress or anxiety problems, visit http://stressandanxietysolutions.com

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What's the Difference Between Smartness and Hardwork

SMART WORK PAYS! ANY DAY, ANY TIME & ANY WHERE.
The world is facing great challenges of disease, natural disasters, violence, terrorism and religious extremism.
People are looking for a way out, but most people find the way and refuse to accept the fact that there is a universal law for everything.
In the world of information marketing and the global village thing, becoming a smart worker is the only way to survive the harsh economic melt downs and the impending poverty rise all over the world.
While some people make money on the internet doing several jobs or making use of platforms to share their ideas and network, others are busy criticizing the rich for being smart enough to keep what they have earned and make more through investments and business expansions.
The easiest way to differentiate between the smart worker and the hard worker is through the outcome of each individuals lives.
For instance, if an individual that gets involved in drugs, one out of these three things may happen.
Firstly- He might fall into the abyss of drug abuse and waste off as an addict.
Secondly- He may be caught by the law and jailed for his crimes.
Thirdly- He may escape the first two assumptions and become wealthy.
Those that were unfortunate to fall into the first assumption do not need to be jailed... they are already wasted as it is and will continue to suffer the irreparable loss in world of obsession with drugs.
The second category of people may come out of jail a changed person or worse than before. but the fact is that his life has been wasted over the period of years he has spent in jail.
The final person will think himself a guru, actually he must have been the kingpin... the brain behind every plot, the smart guy, the thinker... he will not be necessarily hefty, no violent past... probably just grew up in an environment that taught him how to survive with his wits and brain.
... HE IS THE SMART GUY, WHILE OTHERS ARE THE HARDWORKING GUYS!
So it seems our universal law works in the world of crime too.
Check out all the crime movies you have been watching for the past 12 months... it's either the smart guy escapes or he dies last...
LESSON...
It's not hard work that leads to the ultimate success, it's what you do with your brain... before you take that decision... think about it..suggest other ways to do it... research about it... apply the best possible idea and see how happy you will be when your ideas begin to flourish.
STORY:
There was a man who after swimming across the sea to consult a sage... he asked: 'oh wise one! How can I possibly find more happiness, make more money and enjoy my life better' The sage answered: Next time you are coming, get a boat, find other passengers and charge them a fee.
HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT DAY.
PS... AREWA ALIY (The Grand Master)

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What Are the Diamonds in Your Life?

"We tend to forget that happiness doesn't come as a result of getting something we don't have, but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have." - Fredrick Koeing
They say, "Diamonds last forever." And, that statement is true. Their brilliance and shine and value never diminish or go away. But, what typically doesn't last forever is our appreciation of these little gems.
In a way, their brilliance, shine and value are equal to the first day they came into your world. But for some reason the excitement and happiness you felt when they first became yours fades with time and the bling factor becomes just another thing factor.
STUFF AND THINGS
Think about how you felt when you got your new car. Were you excited? Did you love that new-car smell? Did it feel great riding around in it? Now how do you feel when you get in your car? Do you feel the same way?
What about when you bought your new home or some piece of furniture in your new home? Or, what about those new shoes, or that new sports equipment or new clothes?
Or the collectible thing-a-ma-jiggers you love? Or your vacation home or your boyfriend/girlfriend now husband/wife, the day your kids were born and all of the other diamonds that have come into your life with anticipation and excitement.
Think about how you felt then and how you feel now about those very same things. Do they hold the same value to you, or have you lost your appreciation of their value? It's more commonly known as taking things for granted.
Why does that happen? And, how do you get back those feelings of excitement when those feelings are buried along with the treasures that are right in front of you?
GRATITUDE
It's called appreciating the little things in your life. I think of it as re-looking at all the good that surrounds you.
All of those people and things that once made you so happy and excited when first receiving them can still make you feel that way if you stop for a second and REALLY look at them instead of glossing over them as they fade in the distance or they become a non-thing in your peripheral vision.
It only takes a millisecond to remember. It only takes a second to say, "Thank You" to the Universe, God or you Higher Consciousness.
Start every day by taking a minute to look around you and be thankful for all of the little treasures you've accumulated that make your home a home. Close your eyes and whisper, "Thank You" and send out a blessing to all of the people you love.
Look at the world through new eyes and begin to be happy and excited again because most of those diamonds are still there shining their brilliance into your life. But, all you have to do is take a second and REALLY see them so they can sparkle.
So, take a minute to stop and savor your blessings. Show your love and appreciation to someone you love and those are the diamonds that will shine in them long after you're gone. Those are the diamonds that last forever!

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What You Send, Is What You Receive

I wish to speak to you this morning on the topic of something called, "The Law of Attraction." This particular, spiritual law has been a controversial topic for some time due to its amazing results! I for example have had incredible results because I focused on this law!What exactly is the Law of Attraction you may ask? Well the answer is very simple.
It was discovered in medieval times as the universal genie. In other words, what you ask for, is what you will get. The Law of Attraction is the phrase, "like attracts like." Basically, what you like, what you feel, what you think, is what you're going to attract in the universe. Your mind gives off vibrations, shoot, everybody's minds give off vibrations! So if you ever wondered why you met a certain person, its because at some point, you sent off vibrations which attracted the same vibrations they gave off so you two were bound to meet. Or, you know someone who is always positive and everything seems to go their way? Well, it is because their positive energies are attracting other positive energies to them! it works the same for negative people as well. As you give off negative energy, all you will get is negative results.

This law also doesn't just work with people and energies, it always works with material things as well. What ever you may need, you will get. What ever you may want, money, car, new house, new toy, video game, all you need to focus on are these three words: Ask, Believe, and Receive. Ask the universe with thoughts of what you desire, believe that you will get it, or act as if you already have it, and the universe will provide. However, the downside, (which really isn't a downside), is patience. Patience is a key factor with this law because you don't know when the universe will deliver. It may take months, or even years to get the results that you want, but don't let that bring your hopefulness down!

The law is rather tricky though because multiple studies have been conducted without clear, cut accuracy. Some of the participants claimed the law works "sometimes" while others say it never worked. If you want to know, from me, it has worked at least 85% of the time. I'm not going to go into great detail, but from a truly honest mouth, this law has provided me with multiple wishes and multiple thoughts which I thought were only thoughts suddenly came into fruition. So I'm not saying that you can get every single wish that you may desire, but you'd be surprised that with an open mind, patience, and following the three important words, you'll get what you want.
The best thing is, all you have to do, is think it, and the universe will do all the work.

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Invest in Yourself by Paying Yourself First

If you are interested in personal development it is important you commit to investing in yourself. No matter what it is you want to improve, no matter what you want to achieve, it will almost certainly require an investment or will be much better and be achieved much quicker with the right investment.
Start by listing the areas of improvement to which you wish to commit. This can be in a very wide area, and I am not limiting myself at all to one particular niche. Have a look at the Top Ten New Year Resolutions as identified by the University of Scranton in the Journal of Clinical Psychology in December 2012:
1. Lose Weight
2. Get Organized
3. Spend Less, Save More
4. Enjoy Life to the Fullest
5. Staying Fit and Healthy
6. Learn Something Exciting
7. Quit Smoking
8. Help Others in Their Dreams
9. Fall in Love
10. Spend More Time with Family
All ten are perfectly acceptable self improvement goals, and you can probably add quite a few more to this list.
Take a look around and see what products and services are out there which could help you make serious inroads on those improvements your desire. Examine them carefully. There are a lot of scams out there, but there are also a lot of diamonds if you look carefully enough. Try to find at least one for each of the areas on your list. Don't worry at this stage about how much money they may cost. All that should concern you right now is whether you believe they will help you achieve your goals better or faster, or both.
Once you have come up with the list of investments you want to make in yourself and are reasonably comfortable that, at least for now, this is a fairly complete list, the next step is to work out how you will pay for them.
One problem many people have, though, is that after they have paid all their monthly bills there is no money left to invest in themselves.
What may surprise you, though, is that no matter how much you earn you will almost certainly still find there is no money left after paying the bills. How can this be?
Parkinson's Second Law
The answer lies in Parkinson's Second Law. You have probably heard his First Law - "work expands to fill the available time". But perhaps you missed the Second Law - "expenditure rises to meet the available income". Parkinson's Second Law is often applied to bureaucracies and they way they can needlessly spend our money. But it is equally applicable to personal expenditure.
The corollary of Parkinson's Second Law is that if you look carefully at your spending you will always find cuts you can make without impacting noticeably on your overall lifestyle.
Your first step should therefore be to examine your budget very carefully. Pretend you are a business which is not making profit. Step back and look at that business as if you were the finance director (or maybe the bank manager!). I think you will be surprised by some of the cuts you could make and still continue to enjoy life just as much.
Pay Yourself First
Once you have done this, regard yourself as your own primary creditor. You owe yourself a lot of money, so start paying it back.
Pay yourself first. Before you pay anyone else. Do not feel guilty about doing this. Every day of your adult life up to now you have paid everyone except yourself. Now it is your turn!
How much should you pay yourself? Well, that depends, of course. It depends on many factors. Not least of which is how much you managed to save off your budget - make sure at least half of this goes to you. Some coaches suggest it should be a minimum of 10% of your gross earnings. But again I stress this depends on your own circumstances and budget. Just don't allow it to be whittled down to almost nothing!
Put it in savings and investments that you resolve not to touch except when investing in yourself.
Invest in Yourself
Once you have started this habit of paying yourself first, start to invest with the money you have saved. Not in company shares. Not in bricks and mortar. You are going to invest in something far more valuable than that. You are going to invest in yourself!

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5 Amazing Tips for Being Motivated Every Day

Staying motivated is something that can be a struggle for most people. It can be tough being motivated enough every day in the face of overwhelming feelings of guilt, lethargy and negativity most people feel. But it is not impossible. Following are 5 amazing tips for being motivated every day.
1. Boost Your Confidence
Perhaps the reason most people lose motivation is because of a lack of confidence. When you are focused on what is wrong with your situation in life, you give way to a spiral of negative thoughts. Past mistakes and failures come to mind and in no time, your confidence reaches its ebb. To make sure this does not happen time and again; focus on how you can solve a problem. For instance, if you have been sacked from your job, think about the things you could do to get a new job instead of spending time worrying about how you are going to pay the bills.
2. Have Goals in Life
Unless you have tangible goals, you are not going to be motivated. A goal can be as simple as making time to read a new book by your favorite author or something as complex as finding a job that pays more. When you have goals in your mind, you will feel motivated to achieve them.
3. Develop Direction
Once you have drawn up your goals for say, the next one year, you can set a direction to achieve them. Motivated people are those who have goals and a plan to achieve their goals. Take out time to find out what things you can do every day that will help you go closer to your goal. In fact, writing down is a wonderful way of giving yourself a blueprint of action. You don't have to worry about not getting motivated once you have a plan of action.
4. Achieve Your Goals
Deciding on goals and drawing up a plan of execution was the easy part. The most important thing next is to actually do it. Think about all that you have to achieve and set about doing the things. However, on days you feel unmotivated and not able to concentrate on the task at hand, give yourself a break. Everyone needs a break and so do you, right?
5. Surround Yourself with People Who Love You
Studies have shown that when you have people in your life who love you and care about you, you are going to be motivated by their positive energy. Enjoy time spent with family and friends whenever you can.
The secret of motivation every day is simple. There is no mystery attached to it. Follow the five tips above and enjoy a fuller life every day.

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The Five Things You Need to Know about the Subconscious Mind

Discovering the transformation that can be achieved in life through the subliminal mind is one of the most powerful things you can ever learn in life. This gives us the power to induce any change in our psychological makeup, considering the influence that the subconscious has on who we are.
The potential of subliminal suggestions was discovered around fifty years ago, but until now not everyone is able to take advantage of its full power. If it’s your first time to discover the power of the subliminal mind, it is, in essence, the ability to control the mind as a means of controlling one’s actions, decisions, and circumstances. In the useful sense, this power can be harnessed to make various aspects of life more favorable to you.

This may sound obscure at first, but here’s the short and the long of it so you can understand and apply this amazing secret to your life:
1. The subconscious is in control. Have you ever felt strong urges that you can’t seem to control or fight against with all your conscious might? Haven’t you ever wondered where these irresistible urges, which seem to go against our consciousness, come from? They all come from the subconscious or the subliminal mind.
The conscious mind works differently; it filters and chooses what it will absorb. It serves as a defense mechanism for our thoughts. The subliminal mind, on the other hand, is more receptive and sensitive. It can absorb almost anything around us, without our knowledge, and without filtering any of them out. Thus, we may not know it, but several things get planted inside us and may eventually come out to influence our thoughts, actions, and decisions, even without our knowledge or against our conscious will.
2. Controlling the subconscious puts you in full control of your mind and life. If you want to have control over your life and your mind, you need to learn how to gain control over your subconscious. But unlike the conscious mind which we have access to, the subconscious hides deep within. This makes it harder, or even impossible, for us to control it using normal thoughts.
3. The subconscious operates at a different frequency. The mind operates at frequencies, and the subconscious mind operates at a frequency different from that of the conscious mind. That’s why the subconscious will not respond to conscious promptings. You can only communicate with it at the same frequency.
4. Subliminal messages control the subconscious. To communicate with the subliminal mind, you need to use subliminal messages. Subliminal messages are instantly absorbed by the subconscious.
5. You need to control it to prevent it from getting backtracked. It is important to take control of your subliminal mind. Since it is more receptive and does not have the ability to filter influences that get absorbed right in, it is therefore more vulnerable. If you don’t control and train it, it will become an easy prey to outside influences. Thus, you are letting your environment affect your circumstances, instead of take control of them.

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Top 12 change quotations and sayings

1. “Lay a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at you.” -David Brinkley
2. “May the bridges I burn light the way.”
3. “In a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.” -Warren Buffett
4. “Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” –Life’s Little Instruction Book
5. “Someone was hurt before you, wronged before you, hungry before you, frightened before you, beaten before you, humiliated before you, raped before you… yet, someone survived… You can do anything you choose to do.” –Maya Angelou
6. “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” -Maria Robinson
7. “By changing nothing, nothing changes.” -Tony Robbins
8. “Today is the first day of the rest of your life.” -Anonymous
9. “All great changes are preceded by chaos.” -Deepak Chopra
10. “Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.” -C.S. Lewis
11. “Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.” -Marilyn Monroe
12. “Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it’s time to pause and reflect.” -Mark Twain

Using Body Language Subliminal to Control Your Non-Verbal Communication Skills

Do you think you consciously hold the key to all your thoughts, expressions, mannerisms, and habits? The conscious mind is not that powerful. It is the subconscious that actually controls all these.
Controlling Your Body Language
Do you find yourself unable to overcome bad habits or negative mannerisms? Do you find yourself spitting out expressions you don’t consciously mean to say? Do you find yourself revealing more than you should through your body movements? If so, that means your subconscious is betraying you because you are clearly not in control of it.
But do you know that there is a way for you to control your subconscious? This way, you can maintain consistency in all your thoughts, actions, habits, mannerisms, expressions, and behavior. You can control your words and body movements. You can send the right messages through both verbal language and body language in a consistent manner.
So how can you control your subconscious to control all communication points in your system, including your body language?
All you need are subliminal messages. These are messages that pass right under the nose of your conscious mind to go straight to the subconscious. This means the conscious mind don’t get the chance to filter them or to block them. Once absorbed by the subconscious, these messages can change the way you think, which also changes the way you act, move, and behave.
Just as you can quit smoking by sending a subliminal message to your subconscious that you are free from the smoking habit because it is not healthy for you, you can also put a stop to uncontrolled expressions and body language that give you away. This way, you can have full control over yourself.
How to Deliver Subliminal Messages
So how exactly can you embed subliminal messages into your subconscious mind? These messages get absorbed the easiest when the conscious mind is relaxed. Thus, you can try techniques that first put the conscious mind in a relaxed state such as:
• Hypnotherapy
• Meditation
However, if you are short on time and want to do this the easier way, you can invest in affordable but powerful subliminal products, such as subliminal videos and MP3 files, which can easily be downloaded online. Just by watching the videos or listening to the audio files, your mind will become filled with the positive subliminal messages you want to deliver. It’s that effortless. Each video or audio file takes just a few minutes of your time. It’s so easy you can even do it on your lunch time or before bed.
Reading Other People’s Body Language – Insights from the Subliminal Mind
The concept of the subliminal mind can also help you read through other people’s real body language. Now that you know about the limitations of the conscious mind, you also know that there are some aspects in other people’s personalities that they themselves cannot control. This includes body language and mannerisms, which betray their real thoughts or intentions.
Knowing this, you can now pay close attention to these uncontrolled areas of a person’s behavior to get clues about the other person’s motives, thoughts, and beliefs.

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10 Student Leadership Quotes

 “If hard work is the key to success, most people would rather pick the lock.” -Claude McDonald

 “The road to success is always under construction.” -Arnold Palmer


 “Anything the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.” -Napoleon Hill


 “Most great people have attained their greatest success just one step beyond their greatest failure.” -Napoleon Hill



 “Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right.” -Henry Ford

“Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome.” Booker T. Washington



“A man is but the product of his thoughts what he thinks, he becomes.” -Mahatma Gandhi




“We must use time wisely and forever realize that the time is always ripe to do right.” -Nelson Mandela

“I had this dream, and I really wanted to be a star. And I was almost a monster in the way that I was really fearless with my ambitions.” -Lady Gaga
 

“The secret to success is good leadership, and good leadership is all about making the lives of your team members or workers better.” -Tony Dungy

How Texting Can Help Improve Your Relationship

Today, I'd like to share some simple, but naughty texting techniques with you. With today's technology, a person can communicate romance, excitement and anything else that one can think through a variety of means. Texting is one such example, but it is often ignored in favor of other mediums, like emails, and Facebook posts. This is a mistake, because there are certain emotions that are best expressed through texting as opposed to other mediums of electronic communication.
In any case, you can create a great text message with a simple one-liners like these:
- I just can't stop thinking of...
- Stop!
- If I could only tell you...
The idea behind these kinds of messages actually comes from marketing. They're meant to shock the senses and elicit curiosity. Although they don't always work in the commercial world, this technique is very effective when used in relationships, particularly if the person you're sending them to likes to get such messages.
If you can create a good introductory message, you will be able to garner the right attention, and she'll respond to your initial message with a curious "What?" From here, you will need to send an appreciation text. You can write any kind of message that you like, but it helps if you can be a little specific on what you wish to say to your special someone.
"I'm lucky to have you" or "I already miss you" are the kind of messages that stimulate feelings of gratitude and endearment. In any case, it's up to you to be creative, and to create text messages that can make your girl smile. These messages may seem a bit cliche, but if you use them at the right moments, and provided you don't overuse them, they can really help improve your relationship.
If however, you and your girl already have a strong relationship then you can try naughtier messages. In writing these messages, it's important to use the present tense and to be as descriptive as possible. Remember that unlike men, women tend to be more imaginative when it comes to romance, and so you will need to offer a lot of descriptions on how you'd like a special date or dinner to go. Describing sights, sounds, smells, and most important of all, feelings can help add excitement and meaning to a particular text message. It also helps if you know how to use the words that women typically like, such as "imagine" or "feel."
A good example to use are romance novels. Some people may consider them trashy, but they can give you some excellent insights on how the female mind works, and what kind of words excite them. Love scenes, for example, use certain words and phrases, and you can use them to create the ideal text messages.
Text messages are like an art form. They require practice and a little perseverance. Even if your girlfriend doesn't like some of your text messages, that's no reason to give up. Keep practicing your text messaging skills, and you'll soon have the right template to make her swoon.
Try it out and let me know how she reacts.

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Happiness: A Step Away

Happiness stems from the inner feeling of peace and the calmness surrounding it. While many believe that happiness would come to them from the things that they do or the needs they fulfill, it does not truly work that way.

While little things could change your mood and make you happy, happiness comes from inside. Of course, there might be factors that activate your happiness, but some people, at the worst times, remain happy.
In the saddest moment, there is always something that can change your mood. It's not something that you can see, and only few people can feel it. It requires a lot of work in order to obtain and once obtained, you can never let it go. Just like you, everyone has trouble of his own and everybody goes through hard times.
If you identify and find the happiest man in the world and ask him the reason for his happiness, he will say that there is no reason he can name, he is just happy that way. Don't -you- mistake happiness with lack of worrisome or for the company of a nice lady or for the wealth, but all of that perishes.


Nothing truly lasts forever, because eternity is a long time. If you want to achieve happiness, then you are up for a long list of tasks that you need to do. You need to get rid of all the straight negative feelings that you encounter because of things you have done or things that were done to you and instead embrace happiness as a friend rather than a feeling; a friend whom you can count on when everything seems to go against you.
Anger will not allow you to reach for happiness. What anger does is, eventually, destructive to both your serenity and the peace surrounding you. While you are in an angry state, go back into your memories and find something that will soothe you. While your memories might all seem dark, there's that one thing that will make you feel good.

When you do well, do not expect or wait for anything in return. If there is a reason for the good feelings, then keep in mind that the reason will fade some day and you will not be able to do good again because your motivation is gone.
And remember that because you do not receive positive effects in return, you will give yourself a reason to be happy when the world frowns at you. You are the master of yourself and only you can give yourself the happiness you need to go on and smile when everything seems dim.
Your smile will turn everything around because you attract this positive energy that will bring you good things in return.
If you ever feel that you are lonely, bring your happiness out through memories and if you have no memories, imagine things that will make you happy. While imagination seems to be an anti-realistic topic, it is the reason for most inventions and the greatest invention that man has ever made is happiness.
Happiness is all around you, if you take a closer look at the world all around you.
But the negative feelings that might encounter you do not only come from you, sometimes they come from things or people around you. If you fail to do something, will you throw yourself into depression or just get back up and hope -even when all hope is lost- so you would be able to keep on going?
If you surrender to the negative feelings then you lose your ownership over your own self and in return, you might seek alternatives that will make you feel in control. But that is never the way to go.
A bit of forgiveness and humble apologetic behavior will turn the tides around. When you are rightfully do something and someone else takes the credit for it, smile and they will lose everything that they have done to steal your accomplishment.
Vengeful behavior will get you nowhere, but acceptance will bring you strength and forgiveness will make you win.

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Important Habits of Mind For Achieving Success

Habits of mind are the patterns of an individual's disposition in every aspect of life. It is the motivational force of that will direct the achievement of success. They are strategies or tools that control mental state of the human brain. This is a state of the mind which has the inclination to act in specific ways. They provide elevation to actions. They are not values, but they are absolutely valuable in helping you to achieve your goals. Your values or attitude determines the direction to where your life leads you.

If you have notice that life isn't getting you where you want to be, this is the time to make a reflection on the pattern of your thinking. If you want to excel, then you need to condition and motivate yourself that you will achieve it rather than settling with the old fashioned way of achieving success. You need to use your mind correctly to think properly on what you need to do to achieve your goal. You should be able to further your research or study to feed your mind with great information in the direction of success.
For those people who are very successful in their chosen fields, they have set their mind into a brighter aspect. These are the people who weren't scared to address their failures and modify them to become better in their next attempt. They set up their mind to be positive, so they will be able to get exactly what they want. Your actions should also work with your mind. When you employ actions to your motivational factor then success is reachable. Successful people are not afraid to challenge themselves. They try to make it better the next time around.
 
They influence their mind with great positivity and practicing further so it will function according to their desired outcome. They don't cease to discover new things. They just don't stop with what is conventional, but rather they search further. They try to control their mind to think of what needs to be thought about so they will be able to get where they want to be in. People who are successful don't refuse to learn more. They are very open to changes, and they can easily adapt to anything. They are able to try new things without the fear of being successful because they had already set up their mind that they will be successful.
Sometimes all we need is just to motivate our mind in order for us to achieve success. Whatever you chose to pattern your mind it will reflect on the result of your journey or endeavor. This is the reason why it is very important to impel your mind so it will change its pattern to go up with the flow. Habits of the mind are very important as it will foretell your way to success. It is what you are comfortable with doing. If you set it up in which your mind will expand, then surely success will not be hard to grasp.

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The Ten Study Habits of Successful Students

 Successful students have good study habits. They apply these habits to all of their classes. Read about each study habit. Work to develop any study habit you do not have. Successful students:

1. Try not to do too much studying at one time.
   
   If you try to do too much studying at one time, you will tire and your studying will not be very effective. Space the work you have to do over shorter periods of time. Taking short breaks will restore your mental energy.
2. Plan specific times for studying.
   
   Study time is any time you are doing something related to schoolwork. It can be completing assigned reading, working on a paper or project, or studying for a test. Schedule specific times throughout the week for your study time.
3. Try to study at the same times each day.
   
   Studying at the same times each day establishes a routine that becomes a regular part of your life, just like sleeping and eating. When a scheduled study time comes up during the day, you will be mentally prepared to begin studying.
4. Set specific goals for their study times.
   
   Goals will help you stay focused and monitor your progress. Simply sitting down to study has little value. You must be very clear about what you want to accomplish during your study times.
5. Start studying when planned.
   
   You may delay starting your studying because you don't like an assignment or think it is too hard. A delay in studying is called "procrastination." If you procrastinate for any reason, you will find it difficult to get everything done when you need to. You may rush to make up the time you wasted getting started, resulting in careless work and errors.
6. Work on the assignment they find most difficult first.
   
   Your most difficult assignment will require the most effort. Start with your most difficult assignment since this is when you have the most mental energy.
7. Review their notes before beginning an assignment.
   
   Reviewing your notes can help you make sure you are doing an assignment correctly. Also, your notes may include information that will help you complete an assignment.
8. Tell their friends not to call them during their study times.
   
   Two study problems can occur if your friends call you during your study times. First, your work is interrupted. It is not that easy to get back to what you were doing. Second, your friends may talk about things that will distract you from what you need to do. Here's a simple idea - turn off your cell phone during your study times.
9. Call another student when they have difficulty with an assignment.
   
   This is a case where "two heads may be better than one."
10. Review their schoolwork over the weekend.

 finally i hope that you love this study habits , and you will practice them in your life .

 

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Promise Yourself

To be so strong that nothing
can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness, and prosperity
to every person you meet.

To make all your friends feel
that there is something in them
To look at the sunny side of everything
and make your optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best,
and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others
as you are about your own.

To forget the mistakes of the past
and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times
and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself
that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of yourself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
not in loud words but great deeds.
To live in faith that the whole world is on your side
so long as you are true to the best that is in you.”
― Christian D. Larson, Your Forces and How to Use Them

How To Become More Influential

Becoming more influential is not difficult, but it does take time, energy and a determined effort. And a well thought out strategy. People don't just arrive at influential; they have to create it for themselves - hopefully with some help along the way. These four steps are critical to starting to become more of what you want, for yourself and for others.

1. Decide you really want to be influential. It puzzles me that so many people seem to want to be more influential, yet are unwilling, or are unable, to take responsibility for doing something about it. From where I come from, this is usually because they fear the consequences - albeit often at a subconscious level. To be more influential means doing something different, and doing something different risks the unknown. How will people regard you as you step up into a more powerful space? Could they attack you and try to put you back in your familiar place. Becoming more influential starts with making a careful, deliberate and determined decision to act differently, and be seen as different from what you once were. Unless you can do this, you're far better of just staying like everyone else down there.


2. Get some focus. Hmmm. Okay, here's the problem. Just about everyone wants to be more influential (or at least wants to be able to achieve more of what they want in life - which requires influence in some way). Yet when you start to ask a few questions, they quickly realise they don't know what they want. In our work, we define influence along the lines of getting people to think, feel or act differently. So, if you want to be more influential, you have to get really good at working out what you what change you want to effect. If you succeed, what will people be doing differently? How will you know that they are thinking they way you want them to think? Or even, what evidence will tell you that they feel the way you want them to feel? Unless you know what you are shooting for, hitting the target is most likely to be sheer luck.


3. Start learning. In reality, often the hardest work is in the previous step - getting the definition and setting the target is hard work but can go a long way to achieving the influence you desire. In fact, I would go so far as to say that if you have arrived at middle years and at middle management, you probably already have enough influencing skill - it just needs to be focused. That said, and given your focus, what do you need to learn to be able to influence your goal. Getting curious, asking questions and looking at what is working for others is all vital here. There are no easy answers, or quick wins, but you have got to learn to become an active student of what works, and what does not work. Many times the answers are just in front of you, or at least, within the knowledge and experience of friends within your network.


4. Do Something. It doesn't have to be perfect, it doesn't have to be profound, but it does have to be some form of action. Unless you step out of the normal range of activity it is almost impossible to conceive that influence will occur. On the Influence Blog we always direct people to the simple and practical steps they can take to become more influential. But whatever action you do take, you need to stay alert to the outcomes. Every time you act something will happen, and you need to be able to stay aware and then think intelligently about the consequences.

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quick Tips for Student Success

“One secret of success in life is for a man to be ready for his opportunity when it comes.”Benjamin Disraeli

 - define your goals and plans for  this year , what you want to do , your degrees ,,,,etc.

“It always seems impossible until its done.” 
Nelson Mandela

-Take care of you health. Get enough sleep. Eat well-balanced meals. Exercise regularly. Make informed and mature decisions about alcohol, sex and drugs. Visit the Health Office as needed.

 “If you don’t dream big, there’s no use of dreaming. If you don’t have faith, there’s nothing worth believing.”  Justin Bieber

 -Be organized. Prioritize your responsibilities. Manage your time. Remember everyone has the same 168 hours a week, only some of us use them better than others.

  Knowing is not enough; we must apply. 
Willing is not enough; we must do. 
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

-Keep your eyes on the prize. Clarify your goals. Know why you are in college in the first place. Visualize your success on a daily basis.

Easy and effective way to Excel in your studies

hello readers of success skills ,

 

As we are in a period in school I would like to offer some personal tips for students in order to achieve excellent results in their studies like i was ;) .

so in this article I will talk about my personal experience in obtaining the highest grades in school .

plz  don't think that i will speak about boring things , i will speak about effective and useful tips that everyone can do it no matter what is your level of study .

here is my personal tips  :

1. before the start of the study you should trust yourself, think you are able to get the highest marks , and you must specify your goal in this year , ask yourself what is the academic level you want to get it , and write is in  a special bloc-note .

 

2. you must be concerned with organizing your time ,  is very important point.

3. wake up early to study at 4 am.

4. must be always  have positive and optimistic thinking . you must use the Law of attraction to achieve what you want .

 

5. stay away from negative friends , and make new friends that they have the same dreams and aspirations and thinking .

6. always talk to yourself in positive terms like " i can do it " , " i can get the full mark in mathematics " , " i'm intelligent " ....

Effective Tips to Improve Public Speaking Skills

Public speaking fear is one of the most commonly reported concerns across all ages. Listed below are some public speaking tips and hints which will help youngsters and adults conquer their anxieties and strengthen their public speaking capabilities.

Practice Speaking First Related to Something You Know
For starters, presenting casual practice session opportunities referring to something the speakers already know can help quite a lot. In a school, every assignment for public speaking would profit by starting with a day or two when each kid picks a topic on a every day activity and presents it before their peers. It could be a story about a sport they play or an explanation of a daily routine. The familiarity makes the speaking experience exciting and easy.

Thoroughly Know Your Subject Matter
This advice applies both to adults and to kids. Even before you begin writing your speech, take all the time and effort required to understand everything possible regarding the topics of your public speaking activities. The more you learn and know about a topic, the more comfortable you can be when you finally stand in front of others to explain and expand upon the subject.
Keep the Subject and Length Appropriate to the Age Group
Although adults may be required to talk about a range of sub-topics and will sometimes be speaking for many minutes or even hours, public speaking for kids need to be tailor-made for their age and ability. If a broad public speaking topic has to be addressed by students or young people, consider breaking up the speaking assignment into smaller sub-topics so that it is not overwhelming.

Practice like You Play, Rehearse like You Will Speak
It is an old sport adage that an athlete needs to practice the same way that he or she will play. The same thing is true when preparing for a speech or other public speaking activities. Take the time to create an environment similar to that of your presenting venue when you are rehearsing. Try to find a mirror or think about taping yourself so you can see how you present yourself. By far the most important piece of advice is to speak using a relaxed, slow and smooth delivery, even when rehearsing.

Know Your Speaking Space
Nothing minimizes nervousness more quickly than familiarity. This applies not only to your public speaking topic, but also to the place you will present. If at all possible, visit the place where you will be speaking. Check for possible issues and concerns like stairway and tricky microphones. Arrange for adaptations if you are a very tall or very short speaker. Take a look at the technology if a computer or projector is a part of the plan. Figure out where you must stand and what to do while awaiting your turn.

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