Many people have some form of the belief that they are not good
enough. It is a core belief that also manifests as feeling unworthy and
undeserving - such as not deserving love, happiness or abundance. It is
at the root of most other unhealthy beliefs and leads to many related
fears, such as the fear of people discovering that you're not good
enough and that they won't love you because of it.
There are many ways that this belief shows up in your life, here are just a few:
Giving your power away
- such as when you constantly look outside yourself for answers and
solutions, trying to find the one thing that will 'fix' everything. You
don't trust yourself and so you think that others have the answers for
you.
Feeling guilty - when something goes wrong, no matter what it is, you assume it's your fault. You must have done something wrong.
Perfectionism
- when you are scared of getting something wrong, of making a mistake,
of saying or doing the wrong thing and being found out, you may think
that you just have high standards. Really this is rooted in the belief
that you're not good enough and so you strive to be perfect in order to
prove that you are.
Insecurity - if you have many
fears, such as the fear of public speaking, of looking foolish in front
of others, and the fear of failure it's because you feel you're not
good enough. You lack confidence and feel you cannot do new things.
Overly confident
- those who seem to be very confident and who are often the life and
soul of the party may fool people into believing that they do feel good
enough and that they've got it all together. Often the opposite is true
and their behavior is simply a front designed to cover up the pain of
the belief that underneath it all they really don't believe they're good
enough.
People with this belief are often very good at deflecting
- putting the focus and attention on someone else, not on themselves.
If you put the focus on someone else then you feel you can cover up your
own deficiencies.
The people who have this belief are not only
those who had unsupportive and unloving childhoods. The belief may have
been instilled in you by your parents who told you or demonstrated that
you weren't good enough or that nothing you ever did was good enough. Or
it could come from your parents being overly supportive, telling you
that everything you did was perfect. Or it could have come from a
sibling being jealous of you or being praised more than you. It could
have come from school or from your peers.
Perhaps as a child you
were pushed too hard or forced to do things you really didn't want to
do. Perhaps your parents wanted so much for you to achieve the things in
life that they weren't able to that you felt too much pressure to
perform. There can be many reasons why this belief was formed.
The
most important thing to know about the belief of 'I'm not good enough'
is that you will have to deal with it at some point in your life. You
may have been successful at covering it up and you may even have
accomplished a great deal in your life despite having this belief.
However, there always comes a point where you can no longer live the
lie. The lie is that you're not good enough, because you are good
enough. You deserve to be here, you deserve unlimited love, happiness
and abundance.
The only way to release the belief is to be aware
of when and how it shows up in your life. To recognize that this is not
who you are and to allow yourself to release the pain that comes up as a
result of it.
When you transform this belief you can finally be
at peace and achieve the freedom you desire. You can be content and at
peace with yourself and your life. Isn't that a great reason to commit
to transforming this belief today?
Linda Binns is an Energy Coach and Mentor, helping professional
women and women business owners achieve work-life balance and freedom by
identifying and releasing whatever is holding them back.
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